I miss my car.
now dont get the wrong impression.
Dont go telling Leo I want a car.
I dont.
Not here.
Not even a little bit.
Well, maybe just a little bit. but not really. A car here seems to be a hassle. Not the same as in the US. I love driving. I really miss it. I miss the freedom, the ease of driving in the US, seattle driving is beautiful - you can see the mountains, the water, trees. . . . .
The kids have had the week off of school. They have been EXCELLENT. After their monstrous behavior at Pancho Villa last weekend I laid into them. Gave them the old talkin to. You know the one. I got it in Kindergarten. I remember it clearly. I came home from school, maybe the first day. I waited until dinner to share my great news. I burst with "there is a kid in my class whose last name is snyder!!! hahahahahha isnt that the funniest name EVER!! snyder!! hahahahha" ok. so not really that funny thinking back, but remember, up until that point I was around greeks. with greek names. names 10 to 15 letters long, starting in pappa and ending in annis or iou, etc. Those names were normal to me. Who had a last name like snyder? snicker snicker? I had to share.
Did my family share my amusement? no! My dad gave me the talk. The "you are a Bxxxxxxxxxis, you represent the family, the honor and respect the the entire family is on your shoulders every time you leave the house. Your actions represent not only you, but all of us, all of greece" Holy Crap! "we do not make fun of other people's names! in fact other people will make fun of your name?" (huh? thinks little me? why?!)
Shaped me right up. I was scared. I carried the burden of representing my family forever. I still think of it. So I whipped it out with my kids. They not only represent the Bat family, but all of America!! I even pulled the "others will think poorly of me as a mother" bit. Yes I did. Mother guilt. golden. Then I threatened to never take them out again and I think they got the picture.
Anyway. they have been good this week. Playing with each other for hours and hours, playing outside in the snow for hours and hours, playing with Tushi, helping me. It has been great. They are happy to stay home. They never ask to go out anywhere. I think because P and M are really best friends, and because they have such a long day at school, they really miss playing together, so this week was catch-up week.
I started thinking. I know. trouble. I need to stop doing this, but I started thinking about what would we do if we were in seattle. like I said, trouble. I would probably take the kids and drive to my parents for a couple days. ak, why do I let my mind wander? Then I started thinking I would drive them out on I90 to snoqualmie. Take them sledding. See the mountains. Then we would drive back. Maybe stop and get some cocoa on the way home. We could take the ferry over to Bainbridge to see some old friends, spend the day over there.
Now, to be fair, I could take them ice skating here. the rink isnt far. but snoqualmie has trees, and green, and mountains, and fresh air. And I could dive. Which in and of itself is so nice. I really enjoy driving. Especially in Seattle where it is sooo pretty. Again, i have no desire to drive here. I dont think I would find it relaxing. at all. quite the opposite.
We could get a cab and go out of the city for the day. Nice, but not the point. With a car, in the US, I could go where and when I wanted, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day. I did not have to rely on anyone else. I probably wouldnt even tell Leo I was going. Maybe call him from the road. The point I guess is not the thing, but what it represents - freedom and independence.
Then I get an email from one of Ps friends. Can he come over for a play date? I would LOVE him to. But I dont know how I would work it out. His friend lives next to the school. They take a bus home. Together. I cant figure how I would work it- I guess wait for M to get home, then take a cab with M and Natasha to pick him up? I just cant work out a reasonable plan. I think I will just invite the family over maybe Sat or the next weekend. Not the same as a play date, but I guess better than nothing.
Did I mention that most of his friends in seattle lived in walking distance? that the school was in walking distance? ugh, see, there I go again.
Moscow is great. dont believe me? look at the pictures in the previous post. It really is beautiful. I do enjoy living here. City life is fun, lots going on, lots to do and see.




I think the grass is always greener.... I was driving around last night in the snow and ice to a mandatory meeting at school (which is half an hour from my house) and wishing I was in a society where there were NO CARS! Because we have cars, more is expected! We place our children at out of the way schools (to be fair it is out of the way for nearly everyone), and the kids are invited to events that far on the OTHER side of town, too! And there are practices and other "must do" things at 7 p.m. at night - not reasonably right after school....
ReplyDeleteNow, my Zhenya was invited to a play date after school. Sounds nice, except I couldn't work it out either! I had to get A and S at their school (ten more minutes east) and drive them home (the half hour west), but to pick up Zhen (at the requested 5 p.m.) I'd have to turn right around and come twenty minutes back to get him; drive him twenty minutes home BUT have him back at the school (where we started) at 7 pm. for basketball. No way, if we wanted any dinner, and I wanted any sanity.....but in the land of automobiles it is supposed to be reasonable....
I think freedom and independence are the 2 things you miss most. You were totally free to do whatever whenever you wanted. Leo worked such long hours. You managed the house, paid the bills, managed the kids everything.
ReplyDeleteIn Moscow you have to ask for help with everything.
I miss my car when we are in Greece more than anything.
What can I say Katherine, you give up some things you get some things.
You will be home this summer and we can go for long drives up the Columbia River Gorge!!
My daughter went to a school in a town two towns over and always had to be driven. It usually wasn't a problem but then we had one. I have had my own car since age 17 so would go bananas with the freedom of one.
ReplyDeleteDriving in Moscow with the horrible traffice is another thing though. I am amazed at how my daughter scoots around, parallel parks in deep snow (and doesn't have an SUV) and doesn't get lost.
Your life has drastically changed since living in WA but look forward to the summer.
What did your kids do in the restaurant? Inquiring minds and all . . .
ReplyDeleteI have played the "others will think badly of me/my parenting" card. I played it today with Skittles: "If you don't wash your hair before we go look at that house, the landlord will think I can't keep YOU clean and why would I do any better with the property?"
Did I mention I drove over a country border this week? Did I say how freaking happy it makes me to know I can do round trip to an IKEA in an hour? I am sooooooo happy to have wheels again (I even parallel parked like a champ today). But, like you, I would never drive in Moscow. It's not worth the headaches.
While the idea of driving in Moscow traffic makes my head hurt, I totally understand what you are saying. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteAnd, nice Beatles reference! You rock.
You should try to find some of the corporate expats with a car. When my wife and I were there we met a nice couple from the US who had a driver and everything. All paid for by their company. They took us out to the countryside. It was beautiful. Plenty of green and space to move around in. You can't stay in the city all the time!
ReplyDeleteI know - it is a trade off to life in the city. Gotta take the good with the bad. Plan to put some miles on the VW this summer!
ReplyDeleteAnnie - I think we have a solution. Not my ideal. I think we will let P go and have a car pick him up. Leo will have one of the drivers his office uses go. I dont really like the idea of a stranger picking him up, but they are pretty secure, I will have the drivers name, license, make and model of the car before they pick him up, so I can give the info to the other mom to make sure she puts him in the right car. I know it will take over an hour for him to get home with rush hour traffic, but it is important to me to foster his friendships and I hate to say - no, you cant play with your friend because we live in the center. He has already asked why we dont live next to the school like the rest of his classmates (there is a compound across the street where many of the families live).
Expatresse - just your general disregard for EVERY SINGLE basic meal time rule. yelling, fighting, grabing, blatent disregard for everyone else in the world. What? the world doesnt revolve around them? We had a single-no-kids friend with us and I think we cured him of any and all desire to ever have a family. ha!
mimi - one of tushis favorite songs! who can resist a song with "beepbeep" in the lyrics?
Ian - with our family of 5 we need a van! ha! actually I am working on it. I am looking into some organized daytrips outside of town. Or maybe even overnight!! We have been talking about taking the train up to St Ps too for a weekend. Just gotta get spouse away from the office so we can go. Or maybe I will go without him. That is what I did in Seattle! (dont worry mom, I wont go anywhere overnight without Leo) :-)
Just dont have the same driver that picked us up when we went to the airport. (Yeltsen incarnate)
ReplyDeleteHe drove like a maniac and it was 230am,Thank God there was no traffic!!!
How about the American cab company. They seemed to be nice and reliable:)
Is Leo his real name? we have heard of Leo the Lion from a kids story book also also a camp gay name. Are you kidding us???
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