Thought I would share this little story from a recent arrival.
So I met this woman - she has a 3 year old and a 20 month old. And she is 7 months pregnant. She realized one evening that she was short an ingredient she needed for dinner. No problem - she lives across the street from a grocery store! Now - to cross most busy streets you need to go through an underground passageway - a perihod - down stairs, across, up stairs. She gets to the store- where 3 year old promptly knocks a bag of sugar on the floor and it explodes. She tries to offer to pay for it, but doesnt speak much Russian, so feels frustrated at her inability to communicate, and a little annoyed with the three year old. They make their purchases, and head out.
Now - let me set the scene for you - because this is where the story gets good - it is well below 0F out - 5:30 ish in the evening - getting dark - a pregnant woman going down a flight of icy stairs in the snow - holding the umbrella stroller with the baby, 3 year old holding her hand - grocery bags on the stroller, she has her wallet, keys, passports in her backpack (she usually has it on the stroller, but put it on so she could hang the grocery bags on the stroller).
OK - can you picture the scene?
now - she is midway down the flight of stairs and suddenly she feels something - she turns - a man has unzipped her backpack and is rummaging through it!!
HEY! she says - EXCUSE ME!
He stops. Gives her The Shrug.**
then - dear reader, I kid you not - He offers to help her carry the stroller the rest of the way down!!
Ha! Chivalry is not dead!
(she declined his kind offer)
**The Shrug - do you know what I am talking about? - certainly not just a Russian thing I am sure, but I do see it often here. Raise the brows, raise the shoulders, turn down the corners of the mouth, tilt head to the side, raise palms up a bit. There you have it. The "you can't blame me for trying" shrug. The "what could I do - I saw an opportunity and tried to take it" shrug. The "wouldn't you think less of me if I didnt just try to take advantage of you" shrug. The "I'm only sorry I got caught" shrug. you get the picture.
example - I was crossing the street the other day. It is above ground - with a cross walk, and a police officer with his big black and white stripe baton. He waves me to cross. An approaching car doesn't stop. The officer waves his baton (almost striking the car's hood) and yells "dont you see this woman with the stroller?!" the driver stops and gives me The Shrug.
